Life with bub after almost 3 months.
If you’re a regular here at the blog (thank you by the way :D) you’ll have noticed it’s been a bit quiet for a few days. Honestly I just needed some time away to do some recharging. Nights of broken sleep, the older two kids’ activities (and behaviour!) tiring me out physically and emotionally – “mumming” in general – has taken a bit of a toll.
Bub is just short of being three months old and already she’s asserting her place in the household. She’s starting to smile and coo a lot more, but she can go from being OK and happy to being grizzly and unhappy in a second. Then everyone (including the older kids) is involved in trying to settle her and calm her down, or at least to stop the crying, as she has the dubious distinction of sounding like a cockatoo when she’s upset.
We’re still breastfeeding and I aim to do so for at least 12 months, like I did with the other two. Bub is a bit of a “happy chucker”, in that she’ll have a vomit every couple of days or so. It doesn’t seem to bother her, and it’s more of a laundry problem than a health problem. In fact, we’ve had to move her early to the “big cot” as she had a vomit in her sleep last week and the bassinette wasn’t conducive to sleep after that.
I do feel bad that she’s in and out of the car A LOT – in the car for drop off to pre-school and school in the morning, back in the car to pick up her brother from pre-school (who finishes a fair bit earlier than her sister), which means back in the car again to pick up the eldest from school. I’m not surprised she screams almost every time she’s in the car, I’d probably be frustrated with that too.
Possibly as a consequence of this, or just her preference, bub will only have a really good sleep during the day if she’s being carried or cuddled. I’ll get 20-30 minutes if I put her down in her cot, but can easily get a couple of hours if she’s in the baby carrier or if I’m co-sleeping with her. At night she’ll have a few hours of sleep before her night feed, and then she’s awake every 2-3 hours, but again will sleep better if co-sleeping.
This is the thing though – some might say that it’s a problem if she can only sleep if I’m with her or carrying her. Indeed, I don’t get an awful lot done in the mornings when both of the older kids are out of the house and I’m there rocking bub to sleep. Some would say she’s developed bad sleeping habits as a result.
I get this and there are days when I’d love to be able to get a load of laundry done or do the vacuuming. However, I also figure as she’s my last baby and they grow so quickly, it’s better I savour every moment and relish these times. I love the cuddles and the co-sleeping because there’ll be a time when it’s never going to happen again. There’s plenty of clean clothes for the family to wear and the vacuuming will eventually be done, but these days of peaceful rest and snuggles are limited.
I wasn’t like this with the other two – with my eldest I wanted to do everything and be the “perfect mum”. When bub no. 2 came around, I had a toddler to deal with as well as a newborn so some of the things I considered to be the “perfect mum” went out the window as it was all about survival. With no. 3 I just want to enjoy every single moment babyhood – even if it means not getting everything done and not being “the perfect mum” – because as long as the family is clean and healthy and fed then I’m happy.
It would be nice if the older two could pick up their toys voluntarily every now and again though :-/